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Post by n i g h t . . . on Sept 13, 2003 23:13:16 GMT -5
Just wondering, what would you do if you ...
Well see, I have this "friend" who has this "girl", that he's been with for a really long time (two years or so... ok not THAT long but pretty long), and at the beginning he was really attached to her, and she wasn't that attached to him, but now it's flip-flopped (she's attached to him, he's looking around for maybe someone else).
Anyway, he met this other girl that REALLY wants to be with him and do stuff with him but... it would break his current partner's heart.
He knows that the girl that wants to be with him wouldn't last long, but it would be fun while it did.
What should he do? Should he make her move out of his place? (she currently makes more money than he does anyway...)
Ok, ok fine. It's about me. Yeah yeah yeah, I'm 17 and own a record store in Manchester while living with my life-long partner whom I don't know what to do with. She makes more money than I do, but in the future I'll get better (playing on a U-17 National doesn't pay anything except book expenses, travel expenses, clothing, etc...), however the REAL England team makes lots of money.
Anyway what SHOULD I do?
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Post by Sektor on Sept 13, 2003 23:23:19 GMT -5
Since you two live with each other, your relation is going to lessen of course because you see each other daily. You really got to think if this other girl is someone you'd be able to live with like the one you're currently with. Your current partner likes you, its entirely up to you. If your current partner is UNBEARABLE and there's no way you can live with her anymore, then you should consider the other woman. Put a lot of thought into this though. Even if she likes you and you cant bear with her, remember it's your life too. If you really dont want to break her heart, then maybe she is the right one for you... I hope that wasnt confusing
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Post by Sektor on Sept 13, 2003 23:53:23 GMT -5
Now THAT is odd. I think the right thing for you to do is to go up to her and specifically ask her about the situation. If you want to get rid of her, try to sit her down and tell her: "Remember when we were talking about looking around for other people... Well I found one." She's the one that suggested the idea in the first place. I'm sure you realized this but she's just using you until she finds someone else... that's not commitment. You really need to confront her about the situation. On other note... You sure you're 17? You own a store AND share a place with a girl by yourself? that's questionable for someone that young.
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Post by n i g h t . . . on Sept 14, 2003 0:10:01 GMT -5
Well... see we have an odd relationship.
I don't know her from school. Or through friends. Or through random meets. Come to think of it, I can't really even remember how we met.
Also, regarding the age, you live in the States, right? Well see, in England it's different if you are trying to play proffessional football (soccer).
They decide if you're good enough or if you're not by the time you're 16. If you aren't good enough, you either finish school and go to a University (College) or you work in fast food the rest of your life. Me? I didn't finish school, because at 16 I was transferred from my parents and my school in West End to Manchester where I play with the U-17 English National Team. It's a big accomplishment, if you ask me, but a hell lot of pressure and a lot of work.
Second of all, I don't actually 100% own the store. See, my father owned a few places in West End, record stores, and when he passed away guess who got control of them... well naturally my older brother. But he needs them more than I do, right? He's at a University but needs money. So he gives me one out of the three or four that's a couple of blocks from my flat so that I can stay on my feet rather than work in some restaraunt wasting my time. He cares for me, and it's a bloody good thing, because I'd be nothing without that kid.
Anyway, so I meet Elizabeth somehow, and she moves in after a few months because her apartment in Camden went out of rent or some s***. Well see we lived together for a while, she worked in restaraunt while at a Law University (which she is now a lawyer and makes hell more money than I do... which gets on my damned nerves) and I played football (ok, from now on I'll say futbol) and owned the shop.
There were rocks and bumps and all kinds of crazy mess-ups where neither one of us really knew where we were going. To be honest I don't know if she loves me, and to be even more honest, I don't think it matters as much to her as it does me. Maybe it's just that I don't want her to leave because... well you know... jealousy and all that bollocks.
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Post by Sektor on Sept 14, 2003 12:45:35 GMT -5
Oh ok, that clears up the age thing. Sorry about your dad's passing.
As I said before, by what you wrote it seems she's just using you until she finds someone else. I'm pretty sure she's already experimenting with other people, you should do the same. That way, if she (and im sure she will) moves out and leaves you, there's someone else for you. If you can explain to whoever you're meeting about your situation with elizabeth, great. If you dont think you can pull it off, you should keep it in secret just like elizabeth is with other guys. I'm sure if you tell elizabeth that you're seeing other people, she's going to get jealous and want to stay with you. Beat her at her own game.
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Post by Dragoon Tony on Sept 14, 2003 22:06:39 GMT -5
You know what Night? Your whole story reminds me of the movie High Fidelity with John Cusack. If anyone has seen this, maybe they know what I'm talking about...anyways, I don't have any good advice for you, so maybe you could watch the movie for insight  |
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Post by n i g h t . . . on Sept 15, 2003 16:43:08 GMT -5
Hmm... never heard of it. American movie... never heard of John Cusack either heh... maybe I'll go see how my life looks in a movie without the TO boards and my record store and without futbol... sounds pretty boring now that I think about it lol.
Anyway, she's not EXACTLY a lawyer yet... but she's not a law student either. As a matter of fact I really don't know what exactly she does but I don't think that is what she's becoming. It's something else, we really don't discuss our proffessions much at all... and also, she can't be using me for anything. She has more money than I do, well for now at least, she could easily find a better place to live. And anyway, as I said, she's the one that just let me go. Sucks doesn't it?
EDIT: Well I'm deleting all of these other posts, or at least the conversations because I'm bloody tired of the whole world being able to read it. Sorry. If you have anything else to say then please post it here. As far as I know right now her and I are done for.
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Post by Pumpkin Jr. on Sept 15, 2003 17:05:19 GMT -5
can't help you but i'm sending my pity  sorry about your dad and i'm only 11 and i'm still only48 inches tall so people think i'm in 4th grade and i'm in6th so people think they can mow over me. sorry about your predicament |
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